Becoming the Best You Possible - Is That Even Possible?

Becoming the Best You Possible - Is That Even Possible?

Post in: Health/Wellness / - by - Aug 18, 2017
As a personal trainer I have heard plenty of people over the years use the phrase "I want to be the best version of me possible." And how can you really argue with someone who wants to make such a positive self-affirmation? As a personal trainer, you really can't.
But what you can do is guide them through a process that makes that affirmation more personal and only about them. Doing this helps to remove subconscious barriers that too often lead from what started as an amazing self-affirmation, into what quickly can turn into a horrible sense of self-defeat. And let's be honest, who ever wishes that to happen?....Nobody!

So how does this process start?

1. Start by asking your client exactly what their transformation at the end is going to look like if they were to be the best version of themselves possible? Sometimes you will get an answer that explains how they looked and felt some years back, and sometime they will immediately reach into their phone, open up the gallery and show you a saved picture of someone they want to look like. You might even have a client who isn't even sure of what that transformation would look like, they just want to feel better and be more healthy in an active lifestyle.
Pro: They have a goal, and goals are always important no matter how ridiculous you may think one of theirs might be. Any goal your client sets for themselves are almost always more likely to take shape...no pun intended...than ones you set for them. So encourage them to state and really define in detail what those goals are and to be honest with themselves about why and if it's reasonable.
Con: Encourage your client to forget about how they looked in the past no matter how long ago it was. Why might you ask? Because that was in the past and only the now and where they are working towards in the future is important. The amount of mental exhaustion and self abuse people will put themselves through because they don't look like they used to is very real; and usually they won't be up front with you about it in the beginning. In short, encourage them to let the past be just that...the past.
In regards to the second scenario if they decide to show you a picture of someone else they wished that they had the body like; really stress to them that it is only okay to use that as a guide and not the rule. Not matter what you do for them or how amazing of a personal trainer you may be, you will never fulfill that kind of a transformation goal for them. After they show you the picture, encourage them to do with it the same as they did with the past...let it go and forget about it.
Because here is the truth. Every client you will ever train is already at that very moment the very best version of themselves possible. What they are really asking for you to do is help them everyday to be better than they were the day before. I am not just saying this either...it's the hands down honest truth. One of the biggest reasons clients or people in general quit with changing their lifestyle for a healthier them is because of the undue stress they place on themselves in regards to thinking they are somehow "not good enough" in their current state. This thinking is about as constructive as starting to build a new home on a foundation made of salt.
In my opinion, over the years of personal training I have found that changing the way people think about themselves is just as important as changing the ways people exercise and eat. If you can get your clients to believe that how they are in the present is just as worthy as how they will be once they reach their goal 90% of their barriers will be removed.
When your clients understand that they are ALREADY the best them they can be, but they can be better as well; then it truly becomes all about the most important thing there is...THEM. Your clients will transform so much quicker the moment they realize that holding themselves up to the expectation of what someone else has accomplished is not doing anything to help them transform...if anything it hinders them.
So the next time you hear a client tell you that they want to be the best them possible...tell them they already are and explain to them why.
Drew Walker

NSCA - Certified Personal Trainer Degree in Exercise Science Founder of blackbarfitness.com
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